Are you having an easy time creating the kind of CONNECTION with a man that turns a few typical “dates” into the beginning of an amazing relationship?
Or…
Are you finding it more difficult than you think it should be to find a great man and go from him just feeling “casual” about dating you to WANTING and NEEDING YOU on both a physical and emotional level?
If so, then I’m going to show you 4 things that are “must-have’s” to win the right man’s heart.
These are also the things that men don’t talk about but that DRIVE MEN WILD when they recognize them and experience them in you.
If you learn these and put them to use in your love life, the right man is sure to see you as that unique and special woman he just has to have in his life forever.
Ready to discover these?
Great. But before we get started, I want to clear the air on something important.
Important Question: Are You Dealing With A Real Man?
There are Real Men… and then there are men who do NOT have their act together.
Real Men are mature and grounded on a physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual level. They might not have everything they want in their life… but they are on a great path and open to growing on a deeply personal level.
The opposite of a Real Man is a Boy.
A Boy will become uncomfortable when he gets too close to his own emotions, or too close to a woman who truly sees him inside and out, for better and worse.
A Man knows who he is and will listen, learn, and communicate even when he sees or senses that the woman in his life is unhappy or disapproving of something about him or his actions.
The things that will make a Real Man appreciate and admire a woman are often things that a “lesser” man would be annoyed, frustrated, or put off by.
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Now that we’re clear on that, things should be a whole lot clearer here with what will draw a real man to you and make him want more.
To simplify things here, I’m going to share these 4 things that a man wants in a woman by showing you how Real Men – and Boys – think about each one.
Here we go…
#1) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Playful
There’s something that drives men wild and invites them into a deeper level of “connection” and bonding with a woman faster than plain old talk about feelings and experiences.
And that something is PLAY.
See… men love to be active and to play.
Men were raised to express themselves and connect with those around them through ACTION. Unfortunately, too many women seem to forget this and want to TALK TALK TALK their way into a man’s heart.
The strange reality is that as you’re getting to know a man… MORE TALK will often get you LESS RESPONSE from a man on an emotional level.
Sure, talking is great to get the facts, and for you to share some things such as your VALUES, and what you do or don’t want in a relationship. But the fact is that men don’t “feel it” for you because of what you SAY. (Just like you don’t meet a man and feel it for him because he has a great “pick-up line”!)
It’s not the words… it’s the experience.
And for men, the easiest and most straightforward way for a man to engage in his emotions with you is by DOING THINGS with him that DON’T require talking, but allow you to be PLAYFUL with him.
“Doing things” is pretty vague… so I’ll give you two examples of PLAYFUL activities you can do with a man that are sure to dial up the emotional intensity, and have him grow more ATTACHED to you:
1. Sports: Not all men love sports or are great at them, and you might not like them either, but that’s not the point here. The point here is to play a sport with a man because it involves aspects of a “game”. You against him competing.
Any sport will do. Ping pong is an easy favorite because no one is really “good”… and you can have all kinds of playful banter hitting the ball back and forth.
Pool is another good one since it’s easy to find when you’re out together – plus you can tease him by placing your gorgeous self in front of where he’s aiming and distract him so he misses his shot. Then, when you’re shooting, ask him to come over and help you so he puts his arms around you. Nice! What man wouldn’t love that invitation? Then if you miss, blame it on him in a fun, sarcastic way.
Bottom line, if a man is being active and engaging in a playful game with you while there is also some kind of TOUCHING involved… it’s a magic combination that’s sure to raise the ATTRACTION level up several notches.
2. Teasing: For men, teasing is a universal way of bonding and communicating that is like an unspoken language that all men speak.
Every man I know at one time or another has told me a story about at least one exciting and attractive woman they once met. Almost all of these stories involve one common theme – the women they were with started TEASING them.
Teasing is easier than you might think. The one catch is to do it all with a sense of humor and fun… and don’t get too serious.
The best way to tease a man playfully is to be SARCASTIC with him. If he asks “Do you have the time?” and you have a watch on…
Look at him straight in the eyes and say “Yes,” smile, and then turn away from him without telling him the time and stop paying attention to him. He’ll realize that you’re being funny and see that he only asked you is you KNEW the time, not to tell him. Then he’ll either ask you directly what the time is, or he’ll start immediately being playful back at you. And away you go, playing together.
This kind of thing is subtle, but builds a growing level of ATTRACTION inside a man for you.
Again, the WORDS you’re saying don’t matter. What’s important is that you’re intentionally either misleading him with your words to mess with him, or you’re playfully making fun of him.
Some women feel uncomfortable with teasing or making fun of a man. But for men, it’s again another way they connect socially. The funny part is, the more you can tease a man and have him laughing and wanting you to be serious for a minute… the more he’s going to be wanting to get close to you and know you better. It’s funny how men and human nature work.
Try it. You’ll love how a man responds!
#2) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Independent
There’s something funny that goes on for some women because of their experiences in relationships with THE WRONG MEN.
Lots of women mistakenly believe that men are looking for a “weaker” woman who will make them feel like they are stronger, smarter, more powerful, etc.
Nothing could be farther from the truth when it comes to a good man (the kind of man you can actually have a great relationship with).
- REAL MEN who have their own lives, who aren’t looking to a woman to validate their lives and their significance DO NOT want a woman who they can “overpower” so that they feel better about themselves.
- REAL MEN want a woman who INSPIRES them because she has great things going on in her own life.
- REAL MEN want a woman who MOTIVATES them because she is thinking and doing great things, and her energy and attitude is contagious.
- REAL MEN want a woman who has her own PURPOSE that inspires her and gives her fulfillment and a reason for living and breathing OTHER THAN just being in a relationship.
Here’s the catch…
A lot of women who ARE busy, successful, inspiring, and who have their own purpose all seem to have a common complaint:
That men are INTIMIDATED by them and their success, and that they have their own lives.
This is NOT why men aren’t responding well to them when it comes to more than just a “fling.” The reality is, Real Men don’t mind if a woman has a great career, or if she makes more money than they do.
What DOES MATTER is that the woman still has SPACE IN HER LIFE for a great relationship, and that she isn’t OVERWHELMED by her work and her career to the detriment of a potential relationship.
Of course, the same goes for a man.
If a man is CONSUMED by his work, feels burnt out all the time, and doesn’t leave space or energy for a woman or a real close and intimate relationship… then he’s not going to do well at keeping a great woman around who knows what she wants and deserves (a man who’s loving and PRESENT).
Bottom line, it’s HARD to be grounded and PRESENT with your partner when you have 438 million things going on… and you’re feeling stressed.
Are You Too Busy For Love?
Is your stress level getting in the way of you simply unwinding and being FULLY PRESENT when you’re with a man?
What unfortunately happens for a lot of busy, energetic, and highly functioning women is that they get burned out and STOP simply feeling like the WOMAN that they are.
A Real Man can love and appreciate a woman who has a great career and life of her own, and the independence that comes from that makes a woman even MORE DESIRABLE to a Real Man…
Whereas a Boy is threatened by a woman doing too much of her own thing.
When a Real Man sees you doing your own thing and focusing on your own life, he will WANT YOU EVEN MORE and do things to get your attention and create intimate situations between you.
But if you’ve tuned out from your own sensuality and you’re stressed and anxious because you feel like you have to do so much for yourself… then you often aren’t in that place where a man will feel INSPIRED by you and DRAWN TO YOU on a physical and emotional level.
To find out what the secret is to getting your own life together as a woman from the inside out, and living in a way that a man will naturally fall for and be DRAWN TO … I’ve put together an entire program for all this “inner” stuff.
There’s a place that’s in between too “needy” and too independent that men find irresistible in a woman.
Funny thing, this place also happens to be the state of mind where you as a woman are at your happiest and most fulfilled inside.
Do you find yourself either:
1) Acting a little too “needy” to where you can tell it rubs a man the wrong way?
Or…
2) Acting a bit too “fiercely independent” to where you don’t even want to let a man in or RECEIVE what he wants to give you?
If so, then it’s going to be tough for a man to both feel deeply CONNECTED to you, and for him to feel intensely ATTRACTED to you.
If you realize that breaking out of your past relationship patterns isn’t just about finding another man to be with… but about CHANGING from within yourself, the you need to read this right away:
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